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Listen to it.”

5. Let them surprise you. Bring age diversity to your characters. They have it. That’s usually the one that changes lives.”

3.

old gay guy

I was barely 35.

Now at 45, after many years specializing in therapy for gay men, I’ve witnessed something remarkable among clients over 50.

They’re completely rewriting the rules about:

  • Sexuality

  • Pleasure

  • Connection

  • Aging

What I’ve learned from my clients has transformed both my practice and my relationship with aging.

Let’s be clear: this isn’t another article about “aging gracefully” or “accepting limitations.”

Those narratives?

It’ll stretch you. Why not learn from someone already there?

Why Younger Gay Men Should Befriend Their Elders

In a world where TikTok trends and six-pack selfies steal the spotlight, there’s something quietly revolutionary about pulling up a chair next to someone who remembers what Stonewall felt like, not just what it meant.

It’s time to write a different story.

Sometimes it leads to sex, sometimes to friendship, sometimes to both. So I decided to build it myself.”

The Truth About Gay Community After 50:

Every client who comes to me thinks isolation is inevitable as we age.

Years of therapy work have revealed that we don’t need to find community — we need to create it.

Here’s What That Really Means:

Take Carlos’s journey:

  • Started a “sexy seniors” book club with five members

  • Transformed it into a 30-member-strong community

  • Created weekly meetups blending literature and life

  • Built a safe space for dating advice and emotional support

“Now we’re each other’s dating coaches, wingmen, and shoulders to cry on,” Carlos explains.

Just write them as being human.

In real life, striking up a conversation with someone older can flip your script. It doesn’t care about crow’s feet or how fast someone walks. Writers have the power to shift that narrative. So we’ll build our own spaces.”

The Hard Truth? Turn Your Body’s Changes into Your Allies

Meet Mark, 63, former personal trainer who revolutionized his relationship with his changing body.

“I used to bench 250 pounds.

Pure BS.

What you’re about to read comes from real men who are:

  • Defying stereotypes

  • Creating new possibilities

  • Revolutionizing gay sexuality after 50

Are you ready to join them?

What My Clients Taught Me About Desire After 50

Meet Marcus, 67.

“I deleted Grindr last week,” he announced, voice full of defiance.

After years of trying to fit into spaces that weren’t built for him, he’d had enough.

“I’m done apologizing for my gray hair and laugh lines.

This includes organizations like Little Brothers – Friends of the Elderly, which matches younger volunteers with seniors through in-home visits. 

There’s also the LGBTQ+ Intergenerational Dialogue Project, which started in 2019 as a partnership between the School of the Art Institute and the Center on Halsted.

Sometimes literally.

If you’re lucky, you’ll get to be old, too. Honor their legacies.