Best gay anal positions

But for many others, things are more fluid.

Maybe you’re a top who bottoms once a year, maybe you’re vers and split it 50/50 (or 70/30, or 60/40), or maybe you don’t care about labels. In spooning, both partners lie side-by-side, facing in the same direction.

The partner in the back wraps his arms around the partner in the front, while the partner in the front can push back against the partner in the back.

Types of lube that stay “slicker” (i.e. When someone has an undetectable viral load they cannot pass HIV to someone else through sexual intercourse.

 

We encourage you to have on-going conversations with your sex partners about your testing practices, and what kinds of barrier methods you plan to use for what kinds of sex acts.

A bigger toy? Water-based lube is safe to use with silicone toys and won’t degrade latex, but it will dry out faster and need to be reapplied.

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Lube

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When it comes to lube for anal sex, more is more. With anal, your foreplay might include some anal-specific play. If you’re newer to anal sex, it probably doesn’t make sense to schedule it for right before you have to rush out the door to a parent-teacher conference.

We’re not saying you should only receive anal sex from people who will let you peg them but it’s helpful for the penetrating partner to have some idea of what the sensation feels like. Why not give it a try?

Spooning

If you are in a queer relationship and you wish to have fun and enjoy your sexual experience, spooning is a fantastic and very flexible position for you.

The top partner then grinds against the bottom partner, creating pleasurable friction. "For other people," he says, "it’s a neural or mental connection that plays a part in pain when bottoming".

Toys? Just don’t do it every day – limit to a few times per week maximum.

To learn more about douching, check out our guide.

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Fibre

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You can also use your diet to prepare for bottoming. If something felt physically uncomfortable, did you say something?

The media, porn, and other queer people might make you think you have to pick one.

It's also suitable for those new to anal intercourse, as it allows the top person to go slowly and control the depth and speed of penetration.

For further satisfaction during missionary, use enough lubes, and also, you can also include neck kissing and nipple play. Just don’t forget to lube up the applicator itself before you use it.

To learn more about lube, check out our guide.

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How to bottom

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Bottoming isn’t something you can dive right into.